Weird looking at what people are obsessed about and trying to figure out.
Once you already have an answer that seems to work.
That is, like someone fresh out of college, trying to figure out what to do with their life. When that has been a question you have been wondering. And have actively been pursuing.
Not just sitting in a job, but actively figuring out what it means to live a good life.
Or like when people ask about what to do for marriage. There are so many girls out there. You need to find just one. You need just one. Find a good one, someone that is a good person and that you get along with. Looks are helpful, activities are helpful, but honestly, that kind of stuff fades too. Character is important.
That does not really solve everything. You have to be a good person too and do what you need to do.